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Dear Mrs. Bohlin,

What is your position and/or your church’s position on inter-racial marriage? And the same on marriage between religious faiths? How would you advise me to respond to a relative who has stated intentions to marry an atheist, of the same sex and of a different racial and ethnic background?

I agree with my church’s position on inter-racial marriage, which is that biblically there is no prohibition against it—the prohibition is about believers in Christ marrying unbelievers. realtruthrealquick.com/interracial-marriage-christian/

Concerning inter-faith marriage, that depends on your definition of inter-faith. Some make a distinction between Christian denominations and say, for example, that Presbyterians shouldn’t marry Episcopalians. I don’t think that is inter-faith, that would be intra-faith marriage. But when we’re talking about, for example, a Christian marrying a Hindu, that is clearly prohibited in scripture, in both the Old and New Testaments. The children of Israel were instructed never to marry any pagan neighbors, and we are told in 2 Cor. 6:14 not to be unequally yoked, believer to unbeliever.

Concerning your relative: is s/he a believer in Jesus? Then I would ask them how they are dealing with the Bible’s teaching not to marry a unbeliever, and the Biblical pattern of marriage as strictly between husband and wife (with no exceptions). Most of the time, people who do what they please regardless of what the Bible says, do so because they don’t know what God has said in His word . . . or if they do, they dismiss it for a variety of reasons, all because they want what they want. There is a heart of rebellion there. If your relative is a believer, the biggest issue is the authority of the Bible and their refusal to submit to it.

If the relative is not a believer, God’s standards and commands are STILL given “that it may go well with you,” (stated 8 times in Deuteronomy)—they function like guardrails on a treacherous mountain road. If we stay inside of the guardrails, we are protected from careening off the cliff to disaster below. But this person’s relationship with God—or rather, the lack of one—is the most important issue. If they’re not a believer, they probably don’t care what God has said, mistakenly thinking that the Bible’s commands and restrictions don’t apply to them. But that’s like thinking, “If I don’t believe in gravity, I can do what I please and get away with it.” No. No one gets away with trying to violate the law of gravity . . . and eventually, they discover they can’t get away with violating the law of God either. Their biggest need is salvation. They need to know that God’s Son, Jesus, died for his/her sins, was buried and rose from the dead three days later so s/he could be reconciled to God. That need overshadows questions about who they want to marry.

I send this with a prayer that you will be able to speak the truth in love (Eph. 4:15) to your relative, and he or she will have ears to hear.

Blessings,
Sue

Posted Nov. 22, 2015
© 2015 Probe Ministries

4 Comments
  1. Paul L. Hershey 6 years ago

    I can’t understand why so m,any gifted scholars come up with so many different views of the Bible

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      Sue Bohlin 6 years ago

      Hi Paul,

      People approach the Bible with personal agendas and with different ways of interpreting what they read. Often, one’s desire to justify how they think about certain topics will warp the ways they view what the Bible says, which is usually a lot plainer than many people think if they would just read it in context.

      In the past, Bible scholars were limited in their interpretation of some passages because they weren’t clear on the meaning of the original languages until more information came along. For example, Michaelangelo’s sculpture of Moses portrays him with goat horns growing out of his temples because they didn’t know at that time that the Hebrew word for glory actually meant “shiningness” rather than “horn.” Moses covered his face because of the glory radiating from it, not because of goat horns.

      But since you wrote this question on an answer to email about marriage, my guess is that you are wondering about the different views on sexuality. I honestly think the different views of the Bible are driven by people’s desire to justify what they want to be okay rather than what is consistent with God’s created intent for us.

      Sue

  2. Yvette 4 years ago

    Is it biblically OK to marry your fourth cousin?

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